Commentary: Rules of Attraction

I think that the attraction is instant, but chemistry is an ever evolving entity. I have had many instant attractions and some of those instant attractions led into very fine friendships, though some rough patches did occur with certain few. It is difficult to say at first why you really are attracted to someone the instant you meet them, beyond superficial reasons. When you get to know them more, you find yourself drawn to them in more than one way; you find yourself stimulated by their intelligence, their humour, their focus and drive, etc, etc.

I have given many people second and third chances, it's hard not to, but when you have to make the choice to cut the head off the serpent before it steals your life away, it can be freeing. Now, I'm not calling the women I have dated serpents, by that I mean the chances are the serpent. Something is not right if you are giving chance after chance. Eventually you would need to look out for you.

I have fallen in love and out of love at the speed of light. It's easy both ways. I have even developed feelings for someone whom I didn't originally have those feelings for to begin with. That is where chemistry kicked in. I learned more and more about them, until the point was reached were I thought "wow.. this person is amazing.." and all their sterling qualities came bursting through and I finally viewed them as someone I would like to be with.

Love is hard. It's a minefield that everyone was thrown into. I have had instant attraction to friends, some that I consider my best friends nowadays. I have developed chemistry with people who I didn't know before. I have desired, lusted, and wanted. All those fun little sins that everyone does, but love is elusive, difficult, and hard. If love were as easy, everyone would be in happy, joyous relationships. Love is not that at all, it is dirty, hard, but entirely worth every drop of sweat, blood, or tear. Worth it all.